Here is a list of 15 things which,
if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much
happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain,
stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing
ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore.
Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and
we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE
RIGHT
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong –
wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or
causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not
worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is
right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be
right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will
that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to
always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations,
events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers
you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone
to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you
feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done.
The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is
beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t
have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start
taking responsibility for your life.
4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING
SELF-TALK
Oh my. How many people are
hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive
self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you –
especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if
used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
about what you can or cannot do,
about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to
allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your
wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by
the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many,
maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and
depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those
feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the
power of positive thinking.
7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize
things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet
we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved
and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is
wished by us all.
8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS
OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something
that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The
moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take
off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will
find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO
CHANGE
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change
will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around
you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your
bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph
Campbell
10. GIVE UP LABELS
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t
understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by
little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is
when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne
Dyer
11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t
exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the
outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear
itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
Send them packing and tell them
they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves
because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving
ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of
excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. GIVE UP THE PAST
I know, I know. It’s hard.
Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future
looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the
present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now
longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you
when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do
and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear
vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
This is a concept that, for most of
us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still
is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time
and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t
mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing
to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love…
well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t
be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so
peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where
you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond
words.
15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO
OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS
Way too many people are living a
life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others
think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents
think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their
teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore
their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose
control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want,
what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one
life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let
other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
(reblogged from www.purposefairy.com)
